Picture Perfect?

Kimberly and I had been checking out photographers since January. We found someone who was a great price and included both photographs and video and a whole bunch of extras. Two problems -- he had not shot an Orthodox wedding in a long time and could not produce the pictures he shot. Second, he would only send one photographer and one videographer. Kimberly pondered this for a couple of months before finally telling me that would not work. So, I began contacting other photographers, some that Kimberly suggested. We were ready to go with one when I received a call from Zach's mother. She immediately said that I was making the relationship antagonistic. She told me they would only consider the photographer she used before, someone experienced in Orthodox weddings. This would cost about $5,000 compared to $2,600 that the first photographer we considered cost, giving us less extras and far inferior photographs. She said I could pay what I had planned to pay and they would pay the rest. She refused to compromise, yet again. It was her way or the highway as usual. The phone call did not end well. I threw in a little dig and that sent her off the deep end. Oh well. A few days later Kimberly told me that she wanted to talk to me on the phone about it. She ambushed me with Zach and he told me that the only thing he felt strongly about was the photographer and really wanted to use the same photographer that his sister and brother used. I told him that I didn't like their photography and that they were over-priced. I said whatever happened to working together and compromising? I told him the only person who has had to compromise is me, over and over again. It didn't matter. I finally called their photographer and decided that I really had no choice. I told them I would go with their photographer. Yet again, I had to give in. Yet again, I was being blamed for causing the problem. The problem was that I didn't "yes" these people to death and do everything they wanted. It was my mistake thinking that we were working together. Kimberly told me today that she's tired of being in the middle. That she's hearing it from both sides. When I asked her what their problem with me was and what did I do to them, she wouldn't say. I am so fed up with this whole situation I'm ready to back out of the wedding completely. I blame Kimberly for all of this. She has let this happen.